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  Involved(ish) with a JW Man.

  by BNG-713 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i know there are several posts about witnesses and non-witnesses in regards to relationships.

  i couldn’t find anything specifically that spoke to me, so i would love some third-party advice and thoughts.. i have never been someone to pursue a stranger from the internet.

  earlier this year, i became friends with someone on a video game.

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  Sail Away

  Based on this alone, run and don't look back! Don't let any organization or man define you or control your life. Trust me, been there!
  

  To a JW, Jehovah (actually, the organization and its Governing Body) take precedence over anything or anyone. Even if you become a JW, you will always take a lower position regardless of his claims.

  While he may tell you he would never attempt to convert you, if he remains a JW, he is expected and required to do so. JW men are considered 'Head' of the family and he will be expected to have his family in subjection to his authority.-- Incognito

  
  
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  Considering leaving? Not sure what to do?

  by peacefulpete in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  this forum was a lifeline to me when my world was unraveling.

  i thought for a while that my experience was unique and my story important.

  something close to 20 years have past and my life is happily, largely drama free.

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  Sail Away

  Agreed, people leave when they are ready. I left when the cognitive dissonance nearly killed me.

  I, too, call it a church. At first I referred to "The Organization", but could no longer say that after the advent of JW . Org. Eliminating triggers is essential, the only thing I don't understand is why crosses trigger me.

  I'm happy that you reconnected with your wife and are able to maintain a relationship with your parents. After being shunned for nearly four decades, my husband finally has some semblance of a relationship with his 90-year-old Dad. They speak on the phone every night.
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  Rejecting JW Message is More Important than Success to Keep Them Indoctrinated

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the recruiting work of jehovah's witnesses has never been very effective.

  such low positive results for such great efforts.

  but the members are paying the gas money and expending the hours, so watchtower is not really losing out.i want you to think about the rejection jw's receive, be it a negative response at the door or people ignoring them at the cart.

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  If the entire process of recruiting is done properly, they start off with encouraging support at the meeting for service, then the harsh world rejects them quickly and boldly, then they get back together with supportive people who care. They even see each other as returning heroes with tales of how closed-minded those worldly ones were.-- OnTheWayOut

  The art of mind control!

  https://www.boredpanda.com/religious-people-converting-rejection-brainwashing-technique/
  
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  Are You Still “Technically “ A Jehovah’s Witness?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if we haven’t associated with the congregation in years, could it be said we are not jws?

  or must you be disfellowshipped or disassociated to officially say you really aren’t a witness?.

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  I doubt it, but I'm not sure if I'm technically still a JW. I walked away in 2011. A few years later I sent a letter of resignation to the two local BOEs where I attended meetings for over 30 years. I threatened to sue if they announced my name from the platform. (I didn't want to deal with shunning in my small town.) I am clearly on the do not call list, and no one contacts me in an official capacity, ever. I made that clear in my letter. Local JWs don't shun me; we exchange pleasantries in passing. Mission accomplished!
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  JW Business Cards

  by HiddenPimo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  how cool would it be to print these up and hide in the stacks of regular cards at the kh?.

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  Priceless!
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  In Sydney, and ex jw gathering, with an apperance by Angus Stewart!

  by nonjwspouse in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this happened yesterday.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pfyty9bs3i.

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  Sail Away

  Can someone please say the time that Angus Stewart speaks during this video? I skipped through and listened to quite a bit, but didn't see him speak.

  Thanks!
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  Jehovah will lovingly Erase the Memories of Your Dead love Ones From Your Mind!foyarse e

  by The Bethelite in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know i would be miserable if i could remember all my dead relatives.

  all my dead children, parents all my worldly family members and friends, yes and the billions of other people too.

  all the people jehovah will be killing off in the years to come.

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  This is one of the main doctrines that lead to my leaving the org, this and shunning. I chose to be with my family now rather than live alone forever with no memory that I was ever a wife or mother. I couldn't wrap my brain around the idea that I would still be the same person in paradise under those conditions.
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  my story...

  by Nikki collins in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  many of you have asked about my story, so here it is.

  it's a bit long lol.

  however i still loved jeremy but because he wasn’t a witness i knew i could never be with him and have my family.

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  Sail Away

  You cant help someone if you cant talk and communicate to that person-- Finkelstein

  ^^ This
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  loneliness.

  by zeb in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  "loneliness is to endure the presence of one who does not understand."--hubbard..

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  "loneliness is to be in close propinquity of someone who has ceased to communicate"- germaine greer.. any others..?.

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  Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. An intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you'll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.

  Janet Fitch, White Oleander
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  Kingdom Hall Renovation

  by geevee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi all, quick question related to renovating k halls.. my in-laws live in another city and the two congs there are in a ten week process of completely renovating the hall.

  the plaster board has been taken off, all the toilets and air cons even the roofing iron and insulation are being pulled out and dumped to be totally replaced.

  it seems like overkill to say the least.

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  Sail Away

  My former congregation had a total rebuild down to exterior walls and the slab floor due to mold. Needed to be totally redone years later, because they didn't do an outside consult for mold remediation, so there was still mold. Lots of sisters had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

  Neither project was a quick build. The first was all on the locals and took about six months. The second took several months with the RBC coming some weekends, but still mostly done during the week with the local congregation contributing heavily to labor, materials and food services.

  The RBC installed the soffits incorrectly, and when the project was nearly completed, there was a major wind/rainstorm one night. Totally destroyed the interior. Back to the drawing boards again. The brother in charge nearly had a nervous breakdown. What a circus.